Do You Really NEED a Life Coach?
You can hardly have a conversation with someone today without hearing something about a life coach. They come in all flavors, from every avenue of interest: health, acting, athletics, parenting, marriages, personal growth plus professional development. Even young people are hiring coaches to help direct them on the right career path before spending thousands of dollars on a career that doesn’t fulfill their passion. Many coaches are highly certified with a long list of credentials while others offer years of valuable experience in their area of expertise. Most coaches will have a mix of both, and many bring great value to the table.
So why hire a life coach? Well, you may not need one, if the following apply:
- If you are totally satisfied with the way your life is going, feel completely fulfilled with your career, marriage, parenting, physical, emotional, relational and spiritual life, then you don’t need coaching.
- If you don’t like to be challenged to improve in any area of your life, you don’t need coaching.
- If you desire to be in the same mindset, health and career 5-10 years from now you don’t need coaching.
- If you don’t like to be held accountable for the things you say you want to change in your life, you don’t need coaching.
- Can’t see yourself sharing any area of your life where you’d like improvement then you don’t need coaching.
- If you don’t believe you’re worth making a financial investment in yourself then you don’t need coaching.
As a transformational life coach, I hear reason number 6 most frequently. Coaching can appear to be a fluff expense. Many would rather complain and roll into each new year carrying frustrations, hurts, and disappointments into the next year without hope of change. Yet, we invest in our education, homes, cars, cell phones, and entertainment to give us the quality of life we desire.
Sometimes people tell me they don’t want to coach because they don’t want someone to analyze their past. But truly, that isn’t what coaching is about. It’s not a time to lay on the Freudian couch and tell every detail of your past and childhood. Coaching looks forward to where you are currently in life and where you want to go from here. It is a mostly proactive discussion, clarifying questions and introspection with someone who is adept at listening well and asking the right questions. Proper coaching will help you sort through your options, interests, and obstacles of how to get you where you want to go.
Keeping the status quo and opting for comfort may be one your goals, but change is inevitable and desiring improvement can embolden your spirit.
Previous unclear clients have finished our coaching sessions with more clarity for a hopeful future. I have seen my clients light up with enthusiasm at their own revelation of new roads they can take to get where they want to go. Previously suppressed talents, unique dreams, self-acceptance and forgiveness of others mistakes provide renewed fervor to embrace life. Opportunities for vulnerable and authentic conversations begin to emerge.
Often my client’s focus changes from a critical mindset to a more accepting and loving lens of themselves and others who may disagree with them. This is because their self-esteem no longer rests on the approval of others. After our coaching season, my clients are enlightened and encouraged to find they hold the key to real positive change in their lives. Enthusiasm, gratitude, and desire to share with those around them flows from renewed dreams and solidified goals. Everyone benefits in this process of personal growth; family members employers, churches, and community. Most of all, you, the client! Coaching is a worthwhile investment in yourself and flows into those around you.
As a Life Transformation Coach, I believe it is my job to guide my clients through a series of purposeful steps to identify their goals and achieve their full potential to live a life that thrives!