7 Myths About An Unplanned Pregnancy

We’ve all heard the reasons—It’s not the right time for me to have a baby. I need to finish school first. I don’t want to marry the father of my baby.  I’ll have kids later when it’s the right time.

The statements below may be sound reasonable to some, but here are some truths that may shed light on this critical decision.

  • I AM ALONE IN THIS EXPERIENCE. Half of all pregnancies in the United States are unplanned or unexpected.
  • I HAVE NO SUPPORT TO MOVE IN ANY DIRECTION. This is not true. There are Pregnancy Centers in almost every city that provide free pregnancy test, ultra sounds and at some centers, prenatal supplies and baby items. Numerous churches provide support groups and donations of items for the mother and the child.
  • THERE ARE NO OPTIONS FOR MY CHILD. Today, there are more choices regarding adoption than ever before. They are open adoptions, that allow frequent visitations with your child while in the care of an approved family that you select. There are also closed adoptions, if you choose to give complete control to the adoptive parents.
  • GOD WILL NEVER FORGIVE ME FOR HAVING AN UNPLANNED PREGNANCY. Based on the scripture verse in Romans 8:1, it says, there is now no condemnation to those that are in Christ Jesus. If you are a believer and engaged in premarital or extramarital sex and have repented of your decision to do this, you are forgiven.
  • I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO FINISH MY EDUCATION IF I HAVE THIS BABY. Many women have been able to complete their education while having a child. Your timetable may get moved back a bit but there is financial aid, childcare on campuses and governmental programs to provide support for single mothers.
  • I WILL BE REJECTED BY MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY. People respect those willing to take a less convenient position and make an honorable decision to support life. Your decision will give others the opportunity to support you in ways you didn’t expect and bring you closer together.
  • I WILL BE BETTER OFF NOT HAVING THIS CHILD. Numerous testimonies from millions of post-abortive women express great regret for aborting their child. There is no perfect time to become a parent but the decision to eliminate this life can have devastating emotional, physical, relational and spiritual consequences. When you  hold your child in your arms or watch them take their first steps you will be grateful you decided to give your child a chance at life.

By: Sally Betters, Certified Life Coach